THEY learn to read at age 2, play Bach at 4, breeze through calculus at 6, and speak foreign languages fluently by 8. Their classmates shudder with envy; their parents rejoice at winning the lottery. But to paraphrase T. S. Eliot, their careers tend to end not with a bang, but with a whimper.

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Consider the nation’s most prestigious award for scientifically gifted high school students, the Westinghouse Science Talent Search, called the Super Bowl of science by one American president. From its inception in 1942 until 1994, the search recognized more than 2000 precocious teenagers as finalists. But just 1 percent ended up making the National Academy of Sciences, and just eight have won Nobel Prizes. For every Lisa Randall who revolutionizes theoretical physics, there are many dozens who fall far short of their potential.

Child prodigies rarely become adult geniuses who change the world. We assume that they must lack the social and emotional skills to function in society. When you look at the evidence, though, this explanation doesn’t suffice: Less than a quarter of gifted children suffer from social and emotional problems. A vast majority are well adjusted — as winning at a cocktail party as in the spelling bee.

What holds them back is that they don’t learn to be original. They strive to earn the approval of their parents and the admiration of their teachers. But as they perform in Carnegie Hall and become chess champions, something unexpected happens: Practice makes perfect, but it doesn’t make new.


The gifted learn to play magnificent Mozart melodies but rarely compose their own original scores. They focus their energy on consuming existing scientific knowledge, not producing new insights. They conform to codified rules, rather than inventing their own. Research suggests that the most creative children are the least likely to become the teacher’s pet, and in response, many learn to keep their original ideas to themselves. In the language of the critic William Deresiewicz, they become the excellent sheep.

In adulthood, many prodigies become experts in their fields and leaders in their organizations. Yet “only a fraction of gifted children eventually become revolutionary adult creators,” laments the psychologist Ellen Winner. “Those who do must make a painful transition” to an adult who “ultimately remakes a domain.”

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Most prodigies never make that leap. They apply their extraordinary abilities by shining in their jobs without making waves. They become doctors who heal their patients without fighting to fix the broken medical system or lawyers who defend clients on unfair charges but do not try to transform the laws themselves.

So what does it take to raise a creative child? One study compared the families of children who were rated among the most creative 5 percent in their school system with those who were not unusually creative. The parents of ordinary children had an average of six rules, like specific schedules for homework and bedtime. Parents of highly creative children had an average of fewer than one rule.

Creativity may be hard to nurture, but it’s easy to thwart. By limiting rules, parents encouraged their children to think for themselves. They tended to “place emphasis on moral values, rather than on specific rules,” the Harvard psychologist Teresa Amabile reports.

Even then, though, parents didn’t shove their values down their children’s throats. When psychologists compared America’s most creative architects with a group of highly skilled but unoriginal peers, there was something unique about the parents of the creative architects: “Emphasis was placed on the development of one’s own ethical code.”

Yes, parents encouraged their children to pursue excellence and success — but they also encouraged them to find “joy in work.” Their children had freedom to sort out their own values and discover their own interests. And that set them up to flourish as creative adults.

When the psychologist Benjamin Bloom led a study of the early roots of world-class musicians, artists, athletes and scientists, he learned that their parents didn’t dream of raising superstar kids. They weren’t drill sergeants or slave drivers. They responded to the intrinsic motivation of their children. When their children showed interest and enthusiasm in a skill, the parents supported them.


Top concert pianists didn’t have elite teachers from the time they could walk; their first lessons came from instructors who happened to live nearby and made learning fun. Mozart showed interest in music before taking lessons, not the other way around. Mary Lou Williams learned to play the piano on her own; Itzhak Perlman began teaching himself the violin after being rejected from music school.

Even the best athletes didn’t start out any better than their peers. When Dr. Bloom’s team interviewed tennis players who were ranked in the top 10 in the world, they were not, to paraphrase Jerry Seinfeld, doing push-ups since they were a fetus. Few of them faced intense pressure to perfect the game as Andre Agassi did. A majority of the tennis stars remembered one thing about their first coaches: They made tennis enjoyable.

SINCE Malcolm Gladwell popularized the “10,000-hour rule” suggesting that success depends on the time we spend in deliberate practice, debate has raged about how the hours necessary to become an expert vary by field and person. In arguing about that, we’ve overlooked two questions that matter just as much.

First, can’t practice itself blind us to ways to improve our area of study? Research reveals that the more we practice, the more we become entrenched — trapped in familiar ways of thinking. Expert bridge players struggled more than novices to adapt when the rules were changed; expert accountants were worse than novices at applying a new tax law.


Second, what motivates people to practice a skill for thousands of hours? The most reliable answer is passion — discovered through natural curiosity or nurtured through early enjoyable experiences with an activity or many activities.

Evidence shows that creative contributions depend on the breadth, not just depth, of our knowledge and experience. In fashion, the most original collections come from directors who spend the most time working abroad. In science, winning a Nobel Prize is less about being a single-minded genius and more about being interested in many things. Relative to typical scientists, Nobel Prize winners are 22 times more likely to perform as actors, dancers or magicians; 12 times more likely to write poetry, plays or novels; seven times more likely to dabble in arts and crafts; and twice as likely to play an instrument or compose music.

No one is forcing these luminary scientists to get involved in artistic hobbies. It’s a reflection of their curiosity. And sometimes, that curiosity leads them to flashes of insight. “The theory of relativity occurred to me by intuition, and music is the driving force behind this intuition,” Albert Einstein reflected. His mother enrolled him in violin lessons starting at age 5, but he wasn’t intrigued. His love of music only blossomed as a teenager, after he stopped taking lessons and stumbled upon Mozart’s sonatas. “Love is a better teacher than a sense of duty,” he said.

Hear that, Tiger Moms and Lombardi Dads? You can’t program a child to become creative. Try to engineer a certain kind of success, and the best you’ll get is an ambitious robot. If you want your children to bring original ideas into the world, you need to let them pursue their passions, not yours.


Source: NY Times

10 Secrets to Raising Creative Kids

Helping kids tap into their imagination may just be the most important learning goal you can implement this year.

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1. Trust the Process

“Parents and kids can get too focused on the final result,” says Meri Cherry, owner of the Meri Cherry Art Studio in Los Angeles, and a mom of two. “You have to end up with a beautiful masterpiece or it’s a failure. If you are drawing a house, it has to have four walls and a rectangle roof. How limiting is that? There are a million kinds of houses in the world! If you see beauty in the process instead, it’s a lot more fun.”

2. Question Everything

Spend any time with a preschooler, and you know that little kids are expert at asking Why? Why? Why? As we get older, we tend to stop this and instead cruise on autopilot. Helping your child preserve this sense of inquiry is crucial to a creative mind-set, says Dr. Keith Sawyer, Ph.D., a professor at the University of North Carolina’s School of Education, in Chapel Hill, and author of Zig Zag: The Surprising Path to Greater Creativity. “You want to foster a different way of seeing the world, where you wonder and notice the puzzling things around you.” That’s because creativity is about not accepting how things are. It’s about wondering how things could be better. Christy Saludares, who blogs at From Engineer to Stay at Home Mom, sees things to wonder about together all around. “We might look at a toy, and I’ll ask my son, ‘How do you think the toy was made?’ If he says it started out as a hunk of plastic, I’ll ask, ‘What do you think they did first? Cut it? Paint it?’ My kindergartner was so interested, he sketched out what he imagined was the whole process.”

3. Make It Funny

If you have a good sense of humor, you’re already highly skilled at looking at things in alternative ways—a hallmark of divergent thinking. “Humor lets kids practice thinking outside the box in a fun way,” says Dr. Elena Hoicka, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Sheffield in England. “When they get a laugh from others, their creativity is instantly rewarded.” Riddles and jokes can get kids in the many-answers mode. (Knock, knock: Anyone could be there!) So start a round of riddles during that next quiet carpool.

4. Give Them a Starter

Kids often find a blank page intimidating. (Don’t we all?) So provide a little structure and step back. That’s what Matt Richtel, a Pulitzer Prize–winning reporter for the New York Times and the author of the children’s book The Runaway Booger, does for his kids. “I’ll sit at the computer and type the first few words at the top of a few pages. (‘Once there was a girl…’) I leave lots of room on each page for them to fill in the rest and then illustrate their ‘book.’ I talk to my kids a lot about the idea of the detail. I’ll ask them what the difference is between ‘a girl’ and ‘a girl who plays guitar.’ This gets them to elaborate on their ideas. I resist the urge to edit. In one of my daughter’s stories, the dad ended up dead on the floor. I didn’t say, ‘You hurt my feelings! You can’t kill me off!’ I don’t want to give her the idea that there are places you can’t go when you’re being creative.”

Cherry does a variation of this at her house as well: “I set up what I call an ‘invitation.’ Maybe while they are asleep, I’ll put out a vase of flowers, two trays with nice paper on them, and some watercolors. One child might paint the bouquet while the other makes something completely different. Or I set out old boxes and stickers and tape and say, ‘I wonder if you can figure out how to make a robot with this stuff ?’ ”

5. Solicit Their Help With Problems

The best creative ideas are not only new—they’re useful. So enlist your child’s help: What kind of toy could we make for the dog so he doesn’t get bored when we’re gone? What can we do about the recycling that’s always overflowing the kitchen bin? Brainstorming ideas, then implementing one together, gives kids hands-on problem-solving practice. Involving your kids in your own daily efforts can also help them see that creativity is everywhere. “My husband does the maintenance of our cars,” says Saludares. “When he replaces the brakes, my 7-year-old is out in the garage watching and helping.” This type of work, where you have to problem-solve to get it right, is just as crucial to creativity as arts and crafts.

6. Be a Model

At Parts and Crafts, co-director and mom of a creative 9-year old son Dina Gjertsen, and her coworkers are often immersed in their own projects alongside the kids. “I’m always making dollhouse furniture and miniature food. In the sewing area, an artist has been working on an elaborate quilt for weeks. The kids pick up on our energy and enthusiasm, and it makes the space come alive. And if a kid sees an artist making something, he might want to try it too.” You can do the same thing at home. Sit down and sketch next to your child, or enthuse over your own latest knitting or furniture refinishing project. “Let them watch you,” says Saludares, the engineer. “Talk about what you are doing. Find ways to share what you love. In my case, that’s science. For others, it could be writing or cooking.”

7. Expose Them to Diverse Viewpoints

“Seeing different viewpoints lets you look at the world in new ways,” says KH Kim, Ph.D., a professor at the College of William & Mary in Williamsburg, VA, who studies creativity in children. That perspective can result in fresh insights by making you question your assumptions. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go backpacking through Europe. Dr. Kim notes that even reading a book about a different culture can give kids a new outlook. “Ask them to put themselves in the character’s shoes.” Pretty soon you’ll begin to see creativity worth sharing everywhere. “You can go to a baseball game and discuss how it is creative. A pitcher might be throwing in a totally unexpected way,” adds Dr. Mark Runco, Ph.D., editor of Creativity Research Journal.

8. Leave Gaps In Their Schedule

“Kids need time in their day to engage in unstructured activities of their own choosing,” Dr. Sawyer says. The most enriching activity might not be another round of French lessons but contemplating a column of dust or messing around in a leaf pile. Children who spend more time in free-form activities like these are better able to set their own goals and take actions to meet them without prodding from adults, according to a 2014 study in the online journal Frontiers in Psychology.

Now that’s a skill for a lifetime! This might mean you need to be stalwart in the face of those nails-on-the-chalkboard words “I’m bored.” (In our FamilyFun survey, only about half, or 56 percent, of you said you allow your child to be bored as a way to encourage creativity.) Boredom encourages daydreaming, a state in which the mind wanders and allows you to look at things in new ways. In one 2014 study in the Creativity Research Journal, for example, subjects who were asked to read a telephone book out loud (zzzzzzzzz) came up with more uses for disposable cups afterward—a classic test of divergent thinking—compared with subjects who had not suffered through this stultifying task. Think of occasional boredom as a recess for your child’s brain.

9. Help Them Hang In There

Making something new or figuring out a problem takes stamina. Showing that you value their efforts helps kids keep at it. “Often, kids think they are done with a piece of art in two seconds,” says Cherry. “So I will ask them about the process. ‘I notice you chose the blue marker. I wonder what you are going to choose next.’ Or I’ll say, ‘I wonder what would happen if you added tissue paper?’ ” Your interest encourages them to keep going—and that’s what builds the muscle of creativity.

10. Support Their Passions

Dr. Kim notes that the big creative achievements in life—a new concerto, a groundbreaking theory about how to fix global warming—require a long apprenticeship in which you develop a depth of expertise from which to build. You need passion to fuel this persistence. Dr. Sawyer agrees: “A huge body of evidence suggests that sustained creativity comes from intrinsic motivation. It happens only when you get real pleasure out of doing something.” Expose your child to lots of pursuits—ballet, computer programming, and more—to see if she finds something that makes her catch fire. If she falls in love with the oboe or robotics, find ways to encourage her enthusiasm—she just might discover a passion that will change her life.




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